“We’re waiting on that moment or experience where everything in our mind is just perfect. When we feel off, we put our lives off. That’s right. You’re waiting on a feeling. Life doesn’t work like that… and while you’re waiting for it to improve… your life isn’t getting any better.”
I’m living in the fear of not being in that perfect moment. We all write these scripts in our heads of how we perceive reality to be. For me, my script has been driven by my chronic pain. I’m not trying to undermine the severity of it, but my life script, every moment and every choice I make has been dictated by it and the thing is, I let it take over my thoughts. Okay. So, I’ve discovered the problem. The problem isn’t my chronic pain. The problem is how I allow my thoughts about my chronic pain to control my actions. BOOM.
The quote above is from the book Unfu*k Yourself: Get Out of Your Head and Into Your Life by Gary John Bishop. The past few months I’ve been in consistent cycles of ruts and desperate for answers on how to get out of them for good. This quick read was exactly the pep talk I needed. No sugarcoating. No BS. Bishop breaks down the book with 7 simple assertions.
I am willing.
I am wired to win.
I got this.
I embrace the uncertainty.
I am not my thoughts; I am what I do.
I am relentless.
I expect nothing and accept everything.
What I got out of this book is that our minds can cause serious problems if we don’t take control of our thoughts. We can do anything we put our minds to if we push the fear causing thoughts out and hold onto the the positive ones that we really want.
Alright. I got WAY more than that out of this book.
The new year is just around the corner and if you are truly willing to make changes, you are wired to win, you got this because you embrace uncertainty. You are NOT your fearful thoughts. You are what you do, relentlessly. When you remove unrealistic expectations of yourself and accept reality, you’ll be amazed at what you can do.
I look forward to seeing where these assertions take me and I hope you join me on the way!
There has been an abundance of research linking gratitude to mental health. Yes, the more thankful you are the happier you are, but saying thank you isn’t enough. Being mindful and actively grateful are the key to seeing results in your life. Gratitude is a practice. Whether you are writing down things you are grateful for or taking moments to sit and reflect on those moments, find a way to practice gratitude each and everyday. One of my favorite ways to bring gratitude into my life is through VIBE. By attending a class at VIBE, I’m being grateful for the life I have been given and the ability to do what I can. Taking care of yourself physically and mentally is showing how thankful you are for being alive and VIBE classes will make you feel alive more than ever. It truly is thankful people who are happy.
Each VIBE instructor has hers or his own mantras. One of my favorites, that helps me push through my VIBE rides is when Ashley says: “Strong legs. Strong beating heart.” When you’re in class, everyone you are surrounded by has a story or even more particularly a health story that you don’t know. Beyond all of these unknown differences, VIBE has brought you together. It might not be a lot in common, but it’s so much more than your passion for spinning. When things get tough in class or in life, when the mountains become too difficult to climb, in this moment we are reminded that we have two strong legs and one strong beating heart, pumping life through our veins. In this moment, where we feel like we are about to be defeated, we are consumed in gratitude for what we have, what gets us through, and for what it feels like to be alive.
I often get asked about how I have stayed so positive throughout my emotional and physical traumatic experiences. Other than having the most loving and supportive people in my life, the one thing I swear by is Gratitude. I’m not one for trends, but the concept of an attitude of gratitude has been spreading like wildfire and I’m loving it. I LOVE November. My great grandparents, grandparents, and parents all got married on Thanksgiving within the last century. Other than my love for tradition, what’s more romantic than celebrating your love for one another on a day where giving thanks for all you have is the main reason the day even exists?! November has turned into my month of gratitude over the years and from there I hold onto it only to restore my love and appreciation for it when November comes back around. Last year on Thanksgiving, I finally committed to taking steps in the right direction of recovering from my pain-induced depression. I signed up for a VIBE class and the rest is history. I don’t know where I would be if I didn’t take a leap of faith by attending my first spin class. Committing to myself through VIBE has helped improve my quality of life tremendously. From helping me stay on track, get the cardio I need without further injuries, boost my confidence in myself mentally, emotionally, spiritually, physically —VIBE has been one of the driving forces in my life and I am grateful beyond measure for the people that make it a possibility. I hope that by sharing my story of triumph through the powers of faith, love, and gratitude will help lead you where you are meant to be. This month I challenge you to bring gratitude into your everyday practice, someway, somehow. It saved my life and I hope it can do the same for you.
Happy November. Find your Gratitude VIBE.